6 Effective Ways To Talk To A Teenager
When children are small then they listen to everything of their parents because they don't understand that much. But as children grow up, their own understanding, their thinking starts developing.
According to the World Health Organization, at the age of 10 to 19 years, physical, social and psychological changes occur due to hormonal changes in the body.
There are 3 stages of adolescence, (* age approx.)
Initial stage - between 10 – 13 years of age
Middle stage - between 14-18 years of age
Final stage - between 14 - 21 years of age or above
It is said that adolescence is an important phase of human life because it is the time when a child moves from childhood to adulthood. This is a delicate phase in which even a little carelessness can have a bad effect on the whole life of the child.
After the children are in their teens, the responsibility of the parents' increases and they have to understand the changing behaviour of the child. It is obvious that having so many changes at the same time means that the teenager is going through a very crucial situation. Sometimes the parents are not even able to guess it, while the parents themselves have gone through such a situation.
Effective Ways To Talk To Teenager
In adolescence, there is a change in the relationship between children and parents. Children of this age prefer to talk to friends rather than their parents and prefer to spend most of the time with friends. In such a situation, sometimes they are cut off from their family.
When the parents try to talk to them, they don’t get the answer properly and a debate starts between the two.
Talking to teenage children is an art, a challenge that you need to learn. Come, here we look at some ways how this process can be made easier.
1 Don't Wait For A Chance
When we directly tell the children that we want to talk to you, the children become uncomfortable. Children don't t like such formal talks. Many times they feel tense and hesitant and are unable to express their views openly.
In such a situation, whenever you get a chance, like when doing household chores, in the car etc. you can talk to them. Some parents have found that when they talk to the children causally, then the children also talk openly.
2 Keep Conversations Short
Whatever be the issue, parents should never prolong the conversation. Just say your points and be quiet. At that time even though you may feel that your child didn’t listen to you. But it is not so when he will be alone, he will definitely think and try to understand what you have said.
But this is possible only when you give him a chance to think. Therefore, if the conversation from parents on any issue is short then there will be no debate and tension and your child will also try to understand your words calmly.
3 Have Patience
If your child behaves profusely during the conversation, you have to be patient with yourself. At that time, ignore his words and try to convince him calmly. Explain to him that his behaviour is not right.
Be funny sometimes to connect with the child. Share your daily things with him. It is possible that this practical change will make him understand that you are his friend and instead of giving the opposite answer, he will start giving you a direct answer.
4 Listen To Them And Be Considerate
Listen to your teenagers carefully and try to understand what exactly they are saying. Don’t interrupt them. By doing this, you too can understand their problem very well.
During the conversation on any issue, what are their thoughts, what are their feelings, it is important knowing and responding to them in terms of their thoughts and feelings. In such a situation, if you are adamant on your own, then your child will only say what you like to hear. But in reality, he will do what his mind says.
5 Help Them Make Decisions For Themselves
When your child is confused, don’t take decisions to solve their confusion. On the contrary, during the discussion on the issue, suggest them 2-3 options and their advantages - disadvantages.
In such a situation, he will think deeply about the options you have suggested and will decide according to his ability. But remember, ask your child what option he has chosen and why?
Just as a workout is needed to make the body strong, similarly, to increase the ability of your teen to test, he needs to make his own decisions by thinking himself.
6 Give Them The Freedom To Express Their Views
Create such an atmosphere in the home that the child can express his views freely. Sometimes he can talk like a big person. Don’t consider it a challenge, remember that now your child is growing up and he too has the right to express his feelings. But at the same time, it is also necessary to make him realize that he doesn’t cross the limits of his dignity.
The adolescent phase is difficult for children as well as thrilled. In this era, children need the support of parents. So it is the duty of every parent to fully support the children at every step in this important stage. All it needs is patience and acceptance.
Apart from the above methods, if you have any other suggestion, then do share in the comment box given below.